As saying goes " HEALTH IS WEALTH " and I would like to confirm that by telling sharing with you all the years that I have gone through, by listening, reading, searching and discussing with the professional, the professor and last but not least the P.H.D qualified individuals. Here I came up with the truth. Although some people out there can't accept the truth, I will tell you now HEALTH is priceless.

Many people think they are shyer than they actually are. According to psychologists at Stanford University in California, 30-40% of people say they are shy, but when their behaviour is observed only 15-20% behave in a shy manner (but of course they may still be feeling shy inside). An extreme form of shyness, known as social phobia. A phobia is fear, and people with social phobia have a fear of being the centre of attention. They worry that everyone is looking at them and judging them and that they will make fool of themselves. They feared being introduce to other people.

At a party they will hover round the edge of the room or stay in the kitchen, avoiding being involved and maybe convincing themselves that are just being CLAUSTROPHOBIC. It is not they prefer to be alone-in fact, they want to connect with others-but intense self-consciousness makes this impossible for them. Eating and drinking in public may be stressful. Some people with social phobia can interact with new people on a one-to-one basis, but go into a total panic if they have to speak or perform in front of a number of people. They may drink too much, in an attempt to give themselves extra confidence.

• "if the conversation stops, it will be my fault"
• "I won't be able to think of anything to say"
• "I'm boring"
• "I'm a social failure"

• Deliberately pause during a conversation and see what happens.
• Look for real signs (rather than imaginary ones) of whether the other person actually is bored.
• Recognize that a conversation may be dry up because the other person has nothing to say.
• In general, concentrate on past successes rather than failures.

Treatments for shyness - The first step is to recognize that your shyness is a real disability that needs help. You then need to explain to your doctor that it is affecting your life, and that you think it is beyond ordinary shyness. The very fact that you have social phobia will make it difficult for you to ask for help. One way round this difficulty is to take with you some information about social phobia and say to your doctor "I've been reading this, and I think I have this problem." Alternatively, you should write a letter to your doctor beforehand, to prepare the ground.

Nowadays, two main groups of drugs are used for social phobia.

• Reversible inhibitors of monoamine oxidase, or RIMAS for short, make the person feel generally more able to participate socially.
• Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, or SSRIs for short, help to ease the anxiety symptoms and panic feelings that go with social phobia.

History - Did you know that early condoms were made of linen or pig or sheep'gut, tied at the end with ribbon. After sex they were rinsed out and reused! An 18th-century illustrated condom, featuring three naughty nuns, was sold at a Christie's auction for $5000. There is no truth in the story that condoms were invented by a Dr. Condom, physician to Charles II. Although it has been suggested that condoms were used by the Ancient Egyptians, the earliest actual report of a condom was by the Italian anatomist, Fallapio in 1564. He claimed to have invented a linen sheath, made to fit the penis, as protection againts syphilis. In England, condoms are known as 'French Letters'. In Italy they used to be called 'English Overcoats'.

There a bit of history on condoms but still having problem putting it on? - Let's start with what Durex said:

• Put the condom on before your erection touches your partner to help prevent pregnancy and transmission of Sexually Transmitted infections (STIs).Open the foil and carefully take out the condom.
• Check the roll is on the outside.Keep squeezing the teat to prevent trapped air.
• Put the condom on and roll it down.If it rolls back up during sex, roll is back straight away.If it comes off use another.
• Soon after climaxing, while still erect,hold the condom in place at the base of the penis and withdraw.Wrap it in a tissue and put it in the bin.

Sex is far better when you're relaxed and confident. And by understanding how to use a condom properly beforehand,you'll be able to enjoy the experience to the full without any worries, concerns or 'accidents' spoiling the moments.

Wilting - causing to become limp or drooping, guys hate this when it happen. Some even lost thier erection while trying to put on the condom on, so it was than impossible to put it on properly. Many dislike using condom because it drew attention to this wilting problem. The researchers suggest that, to make things easier for yourself, you should not try to pinch the end of the condom as you put it on. They found that pinching the end makes no difference to the likelihood of the condition breaking or slipping off during intercourse. Latex condoms are designed to stretch enormously, so there is no reason why the presence of 1 ml or so air in addition to 3-5 ml of semen should 'burst' the condom. They also suggest that instead of rolling the condom on , as suggested by the manufacturers, you should try pulling it on like a shock with your thumbs or fingers inside. Using this method, you can put it on securely even if your penis is not fully rigid. Obviously you have to be careful not to damage it with your nails. In thier study, the researchers found that people who used this method had less chance of the condom slipping off or breaking.

If you find a condom slips off, you probably assume it is to large for you. In fact, it is probably to small. If the condom is too tight you probably aren't unrolling it fully down the penis. This means that during intercourse, the ring at the base of the condom is entering your partner's, where it can be dragged off. If the condom is the right size, the ring will be right at the base of your penis, and will remain outside your partner during penetrating. Reason for breakage may be lack of lubrication. Condom manufacturers admit that the lubrication that they put on thier condoms may not be enough, but adding more would make the packaging difficult. Most condoms are made from latex (rubber). With these, choose a water-based, oil-free lubricant (such as KY Jelly or Durex Play), because oil dissolves rubber and makes breakage more likely. For the same reason, don't let massage oil or handcreams come into contact with the condom. Please don't use condom more than once; use a new one each time you have intercourse.

Myths about impotence

• 'Impotence is uncommon'. This is untrue - most men simply don't talk about it. A survey sponsored by the drug company Pharmacia & Upjohn found that more than 1 in 4 of the UK male population over the age of 16 have experienced erectile disorder to some degree. Of these, over half experienced the problem as one-off incidents and a quarter suffer erectile disorder most or all of the time. There are probably 20 million impotent men in the US, and 2 million in th UK
• 'Impotence is usually psychological'. This is an old-fashioned view: impotence is most commonly due to a physical cause
• Testosterone injections/patches are the main cure for impotence'. Testosterone is of use only in the uncommon situation where there is a proven shortage of testosterone

What happens during an erection

The penis contains three long cylinders-the erectile tissues. Two of the cylinders lie side-by-side while the third lies beneath them. The urethra, which is the urine and sperm channel, runs through this lower cylinder. Sexual excitement causes the cylinders to fill with blood-as they swell, so the penis.becomes erect. And as the erectile tissue swells, it squeezes the veins in the penis. These veins normally drain blood away from the penis, so the squeezing actions prevents blood flowing away and keeps the penis erect. After orgasm and ejaculation these events go into reverse, and the penis becomes limp again.

How the system fails (impotence)

A few years ago it was assumed that most cases of impotence were due to pschological reasons. Now more is know about the blood supply to the penis, and it is recognized that physical problems are often responsible. For example, the nerves to the spongy tissues can be damaged by diabetes, and blood flow can be damaged by vascular disease, or the veins may leak blood out instead of being effectively compressed.

Psychological factors can be, of course, cause impotence. These include:

• guilt
• depression
• losing interest in your partner
• a partner who finds intercourse painful
• low self-esteem
• fear of not performing well

Often both physical and psychological factors are involved. A physical problem impairs erections, and you then become so preoccupied with the question.'Can I maintain my erection this time?' that sexual arousal becomes impossible. Anxiety actually has the physical effect of contracting the muscles of the erectile tissue, preventing blood entering the penis and allowing the blood to drain away.

How to approach your doctor

According to Men's Health magazine, 'on the Richter scale of embarassment, impotence comes near the top'. This is the problem men least like discussing with thier doctor, but it is of course the one problem that the doctor will not be able to guess that you have, unless you mention it. When you do manage to discuss it you will probably find that your doctor is surprisingly matter-of-fact about it. In fact, treatment for impotence have now been so much in the news that more and more people are discussing the problem with thier doctor, so he or she will not be surprised. Impotence, or erectile failure, is a standard medical problem that doctors are now trained to deal with. It is possible that you have a local specialist hospital clinic.

Conditions that can cause erectile failure (impotence)

• Diabetes
• Hypertension
• Vascular disease
• Severe liver disease
• Thyroid disease
• Neurological conditons (for example, spinal injury, multiple sclerosis)
• Depression
• Peyronie's disease
• After some prostate operations
• Renal failure

Please ask for your family doctor's advise on drugs to be taken.

• At any one time, there is about 200 ml (a mugful) of gas in the gut
• Most people expel about 600 ml of gas/day, but some people produce up to 2 litres
• Gut gasses are 90% nitrogen; the remainder is carbon dioxide, hydrogen, methane and sometimes hydrogen sulphide
• healthy young men break wind 14-25 times a day

Everyone's gut contains gas because:

1. we cannot help swallowing air when we swallow food, when we drink and when we swallow our saliva
2. carbon dioxide is produced by chemical reactions within the gut. (Saliva contains bicarbonate, which reacts with acid in the stomach to produce carbon dioxided gas; stomach acid also releases carbon dioxide when it reacts with pacreatic digestive juices in the upper part of the intestine.)
3. the gases hydrogen, methane and carbon dioxide are produced by bacteria acting on food residues in the large bowel

Some of the intestinal gas is absorbed into the bloodstream and is eventually exhaled by the lungs. However, most has to be got rid of through the mouth (belching, eructation) or through the anus (flatulence, farting, breaking wind). Nitrogen, carbon dioxide and hydrogen are odorless; hydrogen sulphide and methane smell bad. Some experts believe that our attempts to hold gas in are an unnatural result of our enclosed lifestyles and the build-up of pressure is responsible for bowel diseases such as diverticulous - when we lived mainly in the open air farting was not a problem, and no one was worried about letting wind pass out naturally. In thew early 1990s a publicity campaign was launched in Holland (by the National Liver and intestine Foundation) to encourage people to break wind at least 15 times a day.

Reasons for farting and belching

Flatulent foods. Onions, tomatoes and mints actually relax the muscle at the lower end of the gullet, allowing air from the stomach to escape by belching.

Foods with high proportoin of unabsorbable carbohydrates that cause flatulence

• Beans
• Peas
• Broccoli, cauliflower
• Artichokes and other root vegetables such as parsnips
• 'Slimming foods' containing sorbitol or fructose
• Raisins, prunes
• Apples

Farting is more to do with bacteria in the lower bowel, which are particularly partial to carbohydrates. The carbohydrates in some foods cannot be broken down and absorbed in the intestine;they pass straight through to the bowel, where they are fermented by the bacteria to produce gas which comes out as farting. Beans are famous for containing large amounts of 'unabsorbable carbohydrate' but other foods can have the same effect. Some slimming chocolate contains sorbitol or fructose instead of sugar. Most of this is not absorbed (which is why these products are marketed for dieters), but can be acted on by the large bowel bacteria.

Overeating, as we know, leads to belching. This is because the stomach normally contains some air. When we overeat, the stomach attempts to relieve the discomfort and distension by expelling the stomach air upwards. This is a reflex over which we have no control. Carbonated drinks, and gulping of hot drinks, introduces gas into the stomach.

Habit leads some people to suck a small amount of air into the esophagus or stomach by swallowing to make themselves belch, without realizing they are doing so. This habit often starts if there is a period if indigestion, when belching may temporarily relieve the discomfort.

Smoking, chewing gum and sucking on pen tops makes you produce more saliva which has to be swallowed. each time you swallow air.

Minimizing wind

• Try to avoid large quantities of the particular gas-forming foods such as listed above but make sure you eat enough fruit and vegetables to avoid constipation and give yourself a balanced diet. The carbohydrates in many foods (such as potatoes, rice,corn and wheat products) are well absorbed so will not worsen flatulence. Dietary fiber such as bran and cellulose are also innocent, because they are not converted to gases by gut bacteria.
• Don't suddely increase the amount of fiber in your diet; the gut needs to get used to increased fiber gradually.
• Avoid carbonated drinks and hot drinks.
• Don't rush your food. When you gulp food you swallow more air.
• Don't overeat. To avoid gas it is better to eat little and often.
• Chew your food properly. This helps the saliva to work on it so it is properly digested, and you are less likely to swallow air with food that is chewed small than with large lumps.
• Avoid 'slimming' foods containing sorbitol.
• Remove 80% of the most troublesome carbohydrates from dried beans by covering them with water, bringing them to the boil and boiling for 10 minutes, turning off the heat and letting them soak for 4 hours. Drain off the water, replace with fresh water and cook the beans according to your recipe.
• Stop smoking.
• Do not use chewing gum, and try to avoid sucking on pen tops.
• Get plenty of exercise. This helps to keep the bowel moving normally.
• Try taking a charcoal tablet (such as JL Braggs' Medicinal Charcoal, available from pharmacies), or eating a charcoal biscuit (available from health food stores) before a meal.
• Your doctor might be willing to give you a course of broad-spectrum antibiotic. This can sometimes help by changing the bacteria in the gut.

The inability to achieve or maintain an erection can be caused by a physical disorder, but is often a psychological problem, caused by factors such as stress, depression or lack of confidence. If it persists, it can be lead to long term anxiety. Any underlying physical problem should be investigated. If the cause is psychological, a doctor may advise sexual counselling or psycosexual therapy, along with stress management techniques

Erectile dysfunction, or ED, can be a total inability to achieve erection, an inconsistent ability to do so, or a tendency to sustain only brief erections. These variations make defining ED and estimating its incidence difficult. Estimates range from 15 million to 30 million, depending on the definition used. According to the National Ambulatory Medical Care Survey (NAMCS), for every 1,000 men in the United States, 7.7 physician office visits were made for ED in 1985. By 1999, that rate had nearly tripled to 22.3. The increase happened gradually, presumably as treatments such as vacuum devices and injectable drugs became more widely available and discussing erectile function became accepted. Perhaps the most publicized advance was the introduction of the oral drug sildenafil citrate (Viagra) in March 1998. NAMCS data on new drugs show an estimated 2.6 million mentions of Viagra at physician office visits in 1999, and one-third of those mentions occurred during visits for a diagnosis other than ED.

In older men, ED usually has a physical cause, such as disease, injury, or side effects of drugs. Any disorder that causes injury to the nerves or impairs blood flow in the penis has the potential to cause ED. Incidence increases with age: About 5 percent of 40-year-old men and between 15 and 25 percent of 65-year-old men experience ED. But it is not an inevitable part of aging.

ED is treatable at any age, and awareness of this fact has been growing. More men have been seeking help and returning to normal sexual activity because of improved, successful treatments for ED. Urologists, who specialize in problems of the urinary tract, have traditionally treated ED; however, urologists accounted for only 25 percent of Viagra mentions in 1999.

What causes Erectile Dysfunction (ED)?

Since an erection requires a precise sequence of events, ED can occur when any of the events is disrupted. The sequence includes nerve impulses in the brain, spinal column, and area around the penis, and response in muscles, fibrous tissues, veins, and arteries in and near the corpora cavernosa.

Damage to nerves, arteries, smooth muscles, and fibrous tissues, often as a result of disease, is the most common cause of ED. Diseases—such as diabetes, kidney disease, chronic alcoholism, multiple sclerosis, atherosclerosis, vascular disease, and neurologic disease—account for about 70 percent of ED cases. Between 35 and 50 percent of men with diabetes experience ED.Lifestyle choices that contribute to heart disease and vascular problems also raise the risk of erectile dysfunction. Smoking, being overweight, and avoiding exercise are possible causes of ED.

Also, surgery (especially radical prostate and bladder surgery for cancer) can injure nerves and arteries near the penis, causing ED. Injury to the penis, spinal cord, prostate, bladder, and pelvis can lead to ED by harming nerves, smooth muscles, arteries, and fibrous tissues of the corpora cavernosa.In addition, many common medicines—blood pressure drugs, antihistamines, antidepressants, tranquilizers, appetite suppressants, and cimetidine (an ulcer drug)—can produce ED as a side effect.

Experts believe that psychological factors such as stress, anxiety, guilt, depression, low self-esteem, and fear of sexual failure cause 10 to 20 percent of ED cases. Men with a physical cause for ED frequently experience the same sort of psychological reactions (stress, anxiety, guilt, depression). Other possible causes are smoking, which affects blood flow in veins and arteries, and hormonal abnormalities, such as not enough testosterone.

How can ED be treated?

Most physicians suggest that treatments proceed from least to most invasive. For some men, making a few healthy lifestyle changes may solve the problem. Quitting smoking, losing excess weight, and increasing physical activity may help some men regain sexual function.

Cutting back on any drugs with harmful side effects is considered next. For example, drugs for high blood pressure work in different ways. If you think a particular drug is causing problems with erection, tell your doctor and ask whether you can try a different class of blood pressure medicine.

Psychotherapy and behavior modifications in selected patients are considered next if indicated, followed by oral or locally injected drugs, vacuum devices, and surgically implanted devices. In rare cases, surgery involving veins or arteries may be considered.

Psychotherapy

Experts often treat psychologically based ED using techniques that decrease the anxiety associated with intercourse. The patient's partner can help with the techniques, which include gradual development of intimacy and stimulation. Such techniques also can help relieve anxiety when ED from physical causes is being treated.

There is a few others treatment such as drugs therapy and surgery or COMPLEMENTARY treatments therapies that encourage relaxation and sexual confidence help ED. Massage, your partner may help you arouse by massaging your erogenous zones. it wouldn't take a rocket scientist to discover men's erogenous zones (the penis, the testicles and the anus) but there is some area that make them go carzy, the nipples, armpit, ear and some even the tummy. So go ahead and find out more about thier zone. more help

Good news Erectile Dysfunction are treatable at all ages.